It’s Guest Blog Wednesday featuring Joel Grimes!
The Human Condition
Life has its way of weeding out the weak, fragile and insecure. The problem is, there is not a person on this planet that is not to some degree exactly that. The truth is, the human condition puts us at a disadvantage from the very start.
It is said that if you are lost in the wilderness, the first thing you need to do is recognize you are lost. The great philosopher singer/song writer Paul Simon once wrote, “I am the first to admit it, but the last to know.” As a general rule, we are often totally oblivious to our human condition. When it is challenged, we panic, come undone and often just give up. But there is hope.
The single greatest reason we fail in fulfilling our dreams and succeeding in the marketplace is the fear of rejection. To overcome the fear of rejection, we need to understand our human condition, that we are all to some degree easily influenced by other’s opinions, and that we are not as strong as we might think. To prove how weak, fragile and insecure we really are let me give you an illustration.
Most of us have posted images on web sites such as Flickr, Facebook, Instagram, etc.. As a general experience, the majority of us receive positive feed back. We read things like, “this image rocks,” “love this,” “you’re the greatest,” etc…. Praise after praise. Then there is that one bad critique. Someone sticks the knife in and turns it. They say that, “your image sucks, it’s a total bore and you should quit taking pictures and keep your day job.” We have to admit, it hurts. When we go to bed at night what do we remember, the ninety nine praises? No, the one critique! Ninety nine praises and we come undone by one critique. You would think that ninety nine praises would easily offset one critique, but it doesn’t.
You may think you’re tough and maybe you have convinced most people around you that you are unshakeable. But the truth is we all have a breaking point, and in the end, come undone. It is a 100% guarantee that if you present yourself to the real world, you will be rejected. That’s right, a 100% guarantee! One person holds the power to steal your dream. One person’s discouraging words, one person slamming a door in your face, one person’s harsh criticism, and you quit, and give up on your dream.
How then do we overcome rejection? I like to look to music as an analogy to help put things in perspective. If you think about it, look at how many different types or genre of music we have available. No two people like exactly the same thing. Everyone’s taste is different. Even if you like jazz, look at how many flavors of jazz are available to us. The point is we all have likes and dislikes.
I have a teaching session called “Country Music verses Rap.” I don’t know too many people that are into Country Music that are also into Rap. This is life. So when it comes to creating images, why do we come undone when we present a “Country Music” look and a person who is into the “Rap” look, says they hate what we do?
Create anything and you will find an audience that loves it and an audience that hates it. We have to understand that the ultimate goal or end result is not to please everyone. It is a impossible task. The most important thing is whether YOU like the images you’re creating and does it fulfill YOUR vision as an artist? Master what you love, do it well and you will find an audience that will love it. To be successful, you don’t need the masses to love what you do.
I have included two images that have had many praises, but also have received their share of criticism. The image of Jessica that is extremely blown out would not have received glowing marks back in my college days. Back when creating a picture was more about getting the perfect exposure. But I love it. If fits me like a glove. I relish in the idea of pushing the envelope on how we define a photograph.
The image of basketball player Rudy Gay, where I have cut off his head, is another one of those images that received mixed reviews. When it comes to composition, we have all sorts of rules that we as a culture have deemed as acceptable or unacceptable. Cutting off someone’s head definitely hit a nerve with many of my viewers. But challenging the status quo takes a risk. Risk opens the door to explore new ground and gives us the opportunity to fulfill our vision’s as artists without preconceived ideas established by others.
So, follow your intuition and create images that you love. For every praise there is a critic. Accept the criticism with a smile on your face knowing that if you love what you are doing, then you are on the right track.